I have recently come to terms with the fact that I am a lesbian. None of my family knows. It's the craziest thing.. since admission to myself about this I have more inner peace. How do you come out to a spouse and your children? I have suspected for 30 years I am. Fantasies about other women... Oh I suppressed it for all of my married years. I even have 2 children and have been married twice. SO... for now this is my admission until I am comfortable enough to share it with others.