Life has changed for me in the last year. Each day I marvel at where it has taken me. It doesn't seem that long ago that I was content to spend days watching life go by. My marriage of 27 years, my 3 children, home, job all seemed to fit together but I didn't seem to belong. I remember the first time I ventured into a lesbian chat room, I told myself that it was just for fun ... just to "see" but down deep I knew I was drawn to it. During the time I spent on line I met another woman with similar feelings. We talked ... and talked and talked ... soon we knew that it was much much more.

Facing all the obstacles to claiming who I was, took a lot of energy, tears and love. My husband was crushed, I knew he would be, but I also knew I couldn't go on pretending. I felt as if I had robbed him of years too ... years that he could of been with someone who could of connected and been complete with him. We worked through the anger, tears, and his feelings of betrayal. Its been hard ... but ... we put in it as much as we could so that when it was done, our children (13,18 and 20) would have two parents who are friends and that are working to supply them love and security. It's not perfect, it still hurts but we are doing it.