QUESTION: Hi. I have been fantasizing about a friend of mine that we always joke about going the other way... she has invited me over numerous times for drinks and maybe a movie (when her children are with the father)... I have not been able to go over... but I really do want to... what can I say or do to see if she would respond the same way? I have a boyfriend and so does she... this would be my first experience, needless to say.

~ Houston We May Have A Problem

ANSWER: It's risky, but all you can do is ask her.

When next she invites you over for a drink and movie, go - but instead of watching the movie, talk with her about your fantasies.